Becoming a Single Mother

Becoming a single mother was never part of the plan. But that’s how life works isn’t it? You make plans and the universe goes LOL I don’t think so..

I think my biggest fear of becoming a single mother was what if I’m not enough.

What if what I had to offer wasn’t enough for my son. How would I teach him how to pee standing up? Or how to clean his bits and bobs (see I can’t even say the correct word without giggling)

And falling in love again? Will I ever find someone that loves Israel as much as I do? Will they understand that they wouldn’t come first? I don’t even come first anymore..

When my relationship to Israels dad ended I was overcome with worry, guilt and doubt. But then I stepped back and thought what is really different from when I was in a relationship? I’m no better or no worst.. my love isn’t any less because I’m single. It doesn’t make me any less of a person.

I don’t know why there is such a stigma around being a single mother. I often get told “how brave” I am or “why did I choose to become a single mom?” and in all honestly I do not feel brave and I didn’t choose this life, but that’s how life goes sometimes. You have to play the cards you are dealt.

And although being a single mother isn’t easy, i can’t remember the last time I slept the whole night or peed in peace, it’s the most rewarding job I’ve ever done. Sure I have my days where I want to throw israel in the bin or have 5 minutes to myself. But that’s like any other job isn’t it, you have good days and bad days.

The day I stopped feeling sorry for myself and accepted a situation I couldn’t change was the day  my life turned around.

Now I try not to stress myself out and over think things. Who knows what the future holds for me and Israel, I might meet my husband tomorrow and then I’ll never have to teach him how to pee standing up! Who knows! I take things day by day now, one step at a time.

I was told God never gives you things you cannot handle, so I know I can over come this struggle. I feel stronger every day, I just hope when Israel grows up he is proud of me. Becoming a mother was one of the best things that ever happened to me, single or not.

Love Lucia Simone x

23 thoughts on “Becoming a Single Mother

  1. I love that you’re now writing and putting your energy into something good! Whenever I see you and Israel on snap I honestly smile such a beautiful bond! I hope when I have children when I’m older I can make them as happy as you do for Israel!❤️

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      1. Hey Lucia your blogs are really interesting, I feel like a lot of people can relate and by reading your blogs it might make them feel more comfortable. I also want to say that you should really start a YouTube channel I think cause I know that I’ll
        Be watching your videos 24/7 and i’d Love to see how you and your son live (sorry if it sounds creepy I couldn’t put it in a better way 😂) anyway I hope that you go far with this and that you succeed in life ❤️

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  2. Hey love!

    You are so brave to show us this, to tell us about this situation. You got this girl. You got all my support from Sweden and you will always be an inspiration.

    Ellinor

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  3. No-one goes into motherhood with the intentions of being a single mother but I kid you not it’s the best thing I have ever done. The love we give is more than the love of 2 parents. Of course in time you will find someone that loves Izzy Bear as much as you do but as you’ve said one step at a time! You are amazing and I love this post xx

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  4. I am also a single mother and think ahh so this is it huh?.
    My daughters father is still in her life though, just not mine lol. Tell me to mind my business, but does Israel still have contact with his dad? Sometimes i wonder, will we ever be together again, then again u never know what life ia gonna throw at u. Ur son is beautiful btw

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  5. This is it!!!! Just to show other single mothers we can do it, end of the day our children will grow to know that we did more just for them, love this and can’t wait to read the next blog, Israel will look up to you babe x

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  6. It wouldn’t be life if things went the way we wanted all the time. You’ve got this! I am sure a new nan will come along when the time is right and you will have the family you always knew you’d have.

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  7. Absolutely beautiful and honest post, thank you for sharing your experience with us, not a mother yet but definitely want to be one someday.

    I think the mere fact you have Israel and he is with you is amazing and a true gift from God. My cousin was in a LDR, ended up moving to US with her baby daddy, got engaged got pregnant & had baby. They broke up, she had to come back to UK, he wouldn’t let her take baby, she had no rights in US so wasn’t able to take her, it’s been 7 years now and she misses her baby dearly. But like you said, you play the cards you’ve been dealt. She’s married now and blessed with another baby girl (but we keep praying and hoping one day her baby will be able to come home, all in God’s time hey)

    Our lives are already planned out and please remember there is someone out there for everyone, it’s just a matter of time! The days may sometimes be dark but the sun always comes up hun. Best of luck with everything and I truely hope for everlasting blessings for you and baby Israel.

    P.S you’ve got this and you’re an amazing mummy, I don’t know you but it’s clearly apparent even just from seeing pics. 😊 💜 – misslincee (Insta)

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  8. Ohhh i love this so much. You are definately more than enough for Israel. You are so beautiful inside and out and im glad that even though you have went through so much s**t, you are creating a platform and voicing your experiances that can help other people and inspire other people. Give yourself a pat on the back princess! Cant wait for the next post. Love you lots xxx

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  9. Sending love and strength; right there with you and I know it’s not easy. Nobody makes this decision lightly but the fact that you’ve done what is best for you means you’ve done what is best for lovely little Israel. xxx

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